Essential Tips for Boosting Your Mom’s Body Self-Confidence
For nine months, you have been creating the miracle of life. All the pregnancy nausea, mood swings, swollen feet, and of course extra pounds – all of that is truly worth it. This sudden epiphany comes to you when you hold your baby for the first time and nothing else matters.
However, there is the other side of the story. Yes, you’ve become a mother, but you still are a woman. As a woman, you might experience shock or even postpartum depression. It all happens so fast: your body goes through various changes, leaving you with significantly changed weight, excessive skin and stretch marks. Many online campaigns emerged out of the need to shut down body-shamers: they support post-birth bodies and celebrate them, and you shouldn’t be ashamed of yours, either! Here’s how you can boost up your body self-confidence and feel attractive again.
Acknowledge that you’ve created a new life
Women give birth every day. Although it is something very common, we all need to take a moment and appreciate just how amazing that is. Even though society forces you to feel bad about your new appearance, you should really step away and think about these absurd beauty standards. Every woman gets stretch marks, cellulite, and a few extra pounds during pregnancy: it is a common and natural thing. Still, it is stigmatized and so many new moms decide to skip the beach and activities that reveal their bodies, although there are plenty of reasons to be careless and simply enjoy.
Step into the fitness arena – but do it for yourself
It is hard to cope with dramatic changes in your physique. If you were leading a fitness-focused life before pregnancy, it can be even harder. The most important thing is not to beat yourself about it, cut out the harmful self-talk, and take small steps to get back in shape. Ask for your partner’s support and talk openly how important it is to do something for yourself. Sign up for a fitness class or follow some of the workout plans. Don’t stress if you don’t see results right away and especially if it is hard to manage your schedule at first. You should be completely unapologetic about it and mute the malicious voices that are making you feel guilty for taking some “you” time. However, getting rid of excessive skin after birth is pretty hard. If it’s making you self-conscious, consider consulting a surgeon about abdominoplasty which is a very common after-pregnancy procedure. In fact, it is so common that it is also known as the “mommy tummy tuck”. It’s advisable to wait at least three months after giving birth and to lose most of the weight before the procedure.
Redefine beauty and indulge in self-care
Taking care of yourself is extremely important for your physical and mental health. Pamper yourself: organize a spa day at home, go get a manicure and pedicure, change your hairstyle, get a facial treatment. Buy scented body lotions and spoil your senses. Nourished and soft skin will make you feel incredible. Buy new clothes and lingerie and work hard towards accepting your body. Beautiful has many different forms: you have simply reached another one. Still, an estimated third of newly moms feel like their confidence has hit rock bottom. Try finding ways that have nothing to do with your appearance to boost up your confidence and it will reflect on how you feel about your body, too. Are you good at public speaking and enjoy being on stage? Sign up as a speaker for a conference or other events where you can shine and get the applause you deserve. Have an eye for photography? Invest in a new hobby and put your photos online, so you get a positive feedback.
Don’t let others define you: motherhood is exciting and many women reach a whole new level of sexiness in this new phase of life. To all the moms out there: we salute you and your strength!
About the blogger: ‘Highstylife’
Zara Lewis (Twitter: @ZaraELewis) is a mom, designer and a regular contributor to highstylife.com , devoted to implementing healthy life habits in every aspect of life of her family and friends. She seeks for beauty in everything that surrounds her. Will start a blog about it once. Until then writes her diary occasionally. Romantic soul and tech geek in one body. She enjoys hiking, cycling, yoga and cooking.